How to end dating someone
Reclaiming personal history Does that mean it's a mistake to marry somebody like Mom or Dad? She and her dad, who is now deceased, lived in different states after her parents divorced when she was a child.Although they had a warm phone relationship, Ney only saw him once or twice a year, and he wasn't very physically affectionate.
And in a survey of approximately 2,700 "high-achieving" men -- those in the top 10 percent of their age income bracket and/or with an advanced degree -- a University of Iowa researcher found they are likely to marry women with education levels and careers that mirror those of their moms. Gordon's wife, Rebecca, 27, has the same career as his mom -- teaching gifted elementary-schoolers -- and the women share a love of cooking and talking on the phone.Her husband, James, 31, resembles her dad and has a similar "hard-working, calm, kind" quality. "He grew up in a family who didn't do a lot of hugs and kisses and 'I love you's, and that does bother me," says Ney, a freelance journalist in Boise, Idaho."I think there could be some truth in the idea that I'm working through my history in my marriage." Breaking the chain Despite evidence that suggests some of us are attracted to mates who resemble our parents, it's not a foregone conclusion, says therapist Barbara Swenson, director of the Couple Center in Sherman Oaks, California.While one can argue that you should do this because of ethical reasons: the risk of breaking up a family (particularly if there are children involved), there are other reasons for ending a relationship with a married man.Reasons, in fact, that have more to do with your happiness than anything else.